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A Separation

A masterclass in moral tension and domestic realism, driven by precise writing, lived-in performances, and escalating consequences that feel painfully human. It’s emotionally intense but never manipulative, turning a family crisis into a gripping study of class, faith, responsibility, and truth.

98% (484,896)

A Separation

Where to watch: Hulu

Movie · Drama · PG-13

2011 · 2h 3m · ★ 98% (485K)

Ugly truth, sweet lies.

Director: Asghar Farhadi

Starring: Leila Hatami, Payman Maadi, Sareh Bayat

Overview

A married couple are faced with a difficult decision - to improve the life of their child by moving to another country or to stay in Iran and look after a deteriorating parent who has Alzheimer's disease.

Director

Asghar Farhadi

Production

Asghar Farhadi Productions, Memento Production

Cast

Leila Hatami, Payman Maadi, Sareh Bayat, Sarina Farhadi, Shahab Hosseini, Kimia Hosseini, Ali-Asghar Shahbazi, Babak Karimi, Merila Zarei, Shirin Yazdanbakhsh, Mohammad Sajadian, Armine Zeytounchian, Bahareh Riyahi

Where to watch

Hulu

Curator Review

Verdict

A masterclass in moral tension and domestic realism, driven by precise writing, lived-in performances, and escalating consequences that feel painfully human. It’s emotionally intense but never manipulative, turning a family crisis into a gripping study of class, faith, responsibility, and truth.

Best for

  • Viewers who like grounded, character-driven dramas
  • Fans of ethical dilemmas and courtroom-adjacent tension
  • People who appreciate naturalistic acting and writing
  • Audiences interested in contemporary Iranian cinema
  • Anyone drawn to films where small decisions have huge consequences

Skip if

  • You want a fast-paced or plot-twist-heavy thriller
  • You prefer lighter emotional stakes
  • You dislike ambiguity and unresolved moral conflict
  • You’re looking for overt melodrama or sentimentality

Overview

A Separation is one of those rare dramas that feels both intimate and immense. What begins as a marital dispute quickly expands into a chain of misunderstandings, obligations, and half-truths, each one tightening the pressure without ever feeling contrived. Farhadi’s gift is making every character understandable even when they are wrong.

Worth noting

The film’s power comes from its refusal to simplify anyone’s motives. Family duty, class difference, religion, pride, and fear all collide in ways that feel ordinary and devastating at once. The performances are so controlled and immediate that the film often plays like life being observed rather than drama being staged.

Bottom line

It’s gripping in the quietest possible way: not because it chases shocks, but because it understands how people corner themselves. By the end, the emotional residue is enormous, and the questions it leaves behind are the point.

Top Letterboxd reviews

cinéfila... 🕯️ (4★) · 3672 likes

i did not push her. it's not true. it's bullshit! i did not push her. i did naaaht

Cramer K. (5★) · 2759 likes

A few years ago I was talking to a friend who had just seen David Gordon Green's "All the Real Girls." My friend isn't much of a film buff, but he knew that he'd seen something special. When I asked what he liked most about it, he didn't say anything about the acting or the direction or nuances of the plot. Instead, he simply said "because that stuff really happened." Of course, my friend was not speaking literally. Instead, I… more

Erik 🎼 (5★) · 2640 likes

this makes up for every badly written film i've ever seen in my entire life and i hope woody allen's crusty ancient ass dies soon for stealing best original screenplay from this

júlia (5★) · 2122 likes

"does he even realize you are his son?" "i know he is my father."

maria (4.5★) · 1578 likes

you can be sure as hell the first thing i googled after finishing this was "WHO THE FUCK TOOK THE MONEY IN SEPARATION 2011?????"

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Themes

marriage and divorce, family obligation, moral ambiguity, class tension, truth and testimony, caregiving, faith and social pressure, parental responsibility

Topics

Iranian drama, moral dilemma, domestic realism, courtroom tension, family conflict, social realism, emotional intensity, middle-class life, naturalistic acting, contemporary world cinema

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